If you are a guy reading this, you have probably
noticed that, instead of opting for a nice and
calm partner who would treat her right (you),
the girl usually chooses a ‘bad boy’. If you are a
girl, then you probably are wondering why you
are attracted to and end up with a man who
treats you badly. We’ve tried to come up with
sensible reasons why this happens, but you are
very welcome to add some new insights on the
matter in the comments!
1. Not real. Nice guys are too nice. No one can
always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are
busy being nice instead of being real and women
instinctually don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it
real.” Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.
2. Respect. No one respects a doormat. Nice
guys don’t set boundaries or make any real
demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all
over him or control him. Women can’t respect a
man they can control. No respect equals no
attraction.
3. Predictable. Most people lead boring, predictable
lives, so they’re attracted to people who are
exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are
always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge.
Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge.
4. Mother Nature. Women are designed to nurture.
However, instead of doing this with children, they
often end up doing it with bad boys. They think
their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to
be saved.
5. Fixing. Nice guys don’t usually need to be
fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a
project. Women think if they can “create” the
perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if
they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have
to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
6. Genetic wars. Women are designed to procreate
with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are
sending an unconscious message that they have
great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the
woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a
message that they don’t think their genes are good
enough, so they won’t misbehave.
7. Fear of intimacy. If a woman is afraid of intimacy,
she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with
a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to
him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually
want a commitment, and that’s scary.
8. Low self-esteem: We don’t feel comfortable with
people who treat us better than we treat ourselves.
If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is
simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is
treating you in a way you’re not familiar with.
9. s*x. Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in
bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and
think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and
get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being
able to deliver, even though that may not always be
the case.
10. Hot. Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn’t
hot? They probably wouldn’t be able to get away
with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so
good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes
someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hot.”
11. Charm. Nice guys don’t always know what to
say and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad
boys can be very charming and know exactly what
women want to hear. However, they eventually
switch over to being selfish. By the time they
reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for
them and has a hard time letting go.
12. Protection. Historically, men have protected
women — physically and otherwise. Bad boys give
the illusion of being able to protect women, while
with nice guys, women aren’t so sure. Life is about
balance. Most men fall into either the bad boy or
the nice guy category. The ideal man is neither, but
walks that fine line between the two. Until men
learn how to do this, more often than not, women
will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his
bad qualities outweigh his good ones.
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